About the Authors
Nova and Grover Wehman-Brown. Photo by EP Li. Click the photo to download the file.
Grover Wehman-Brown
(pronouns: they/them) Grover is a writer, narrative strategy professional, and parent. They are the creator of Masculine Birth Ritual, a podcast about masculine-of-center queer and trans people birthing and parenting young children, and Grover Reads the News, a podcast and Substack news summary created before the November 2024 election as a resource for caring people to face the news together. They write a newsletter at You've Got Mail (only Butch and platonic) on Substack and their writing has been published in venues including Autostraddle, Writers Resist, the Huffington Post, StreetSpirit, Ghost Heart Literary Journal, the Journal of Space and Culture, and the Journal of GLBTQ Worldmaking.
Dr. Wehman-Brown holds a BFA in Writing from the Pratt Institute and an MA and PhD in Communications from the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill.
Nova Wehman-Brown
(pronouns: she/her) Nova s a queer femme writer, strategist, community builder, and parent who has spent nearly three decades helping people and organizations make better, more human-centered decisions. As a longtime UX (User Experience) and product design leader in both the private and public technology sectors, she has dedicated her career to making complex systems more equitable and accessible for everyone.
Born and raised in the creative chaos of the San Francisco Bay Area, Nova grew up believing that care and community are acts of resistance. She lived outside the US in France and pre-Putin Russia for many years.
Her work—whether in community-centered technology, design strategy, or arts-based mutual aid—centers around helping people navigate uncertainty with empathy and clarity.
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Attribution: Should I Stay or Should I Go? Workbook by Grover and Nova Wehman-Brown. 2025. StayorGoWorkbook.com
About the Should I Stay or Should I Go Workbook
Paperback ISBN: 9789083627533
Digital ISBN: 9789083627540
Stay or Go? A New Workbook Gives Readers the Tools to Make an Informed Choice about Leaving the US or Staying Put
In an era marked by escalating threats to LGBTQ people and progressive activists, soaring living costs, pervasive gun violence, and an increasingly fragile social safety net, many Americans are confronting a once‑unthinkable question: Should I stay, or should I go?
Should I Stay or Should I Go? A Step-by-Step Workbook to Help You Decide If Leaving the US is Right for You is authored by Grover and Nova Wehman‑Brown, who made the decision to leave their home in Massachusetts and now reside in the Netherlands with their school‑aged children. It offers a comprehensive, empathetic roadmap for anyone wrestling with this dilemma. Featuring 61 brightly designed worksheets, the workbook guides readers through a structured process of self‑discovery, risk evaluation, and actionable planning.
"I wish we were living through different times and I hope this book can help accompany others who are considering if they want to leave the US, what their thresholds are, and where they might go if they had to leave. We hope the book helps people feel less alone in it and helps them move forward with the information they need." - Grover Wehman-Brown, Author of Should I Stay or Should I Go?
Availability
Should I Stay or Should I Go? Workbook will be released in paperback on November 21st at stayorgoworkbook.com and major online retailers. Independent booksellers and libraries can request the title through Ingram Publishing.
Key Features
Risk‑Evaluation Frameworks that contextualize personal decisions within shifting political and economic landscapes.
Complexity‑Holding Tools that help readers map competing priorities without becoming paralyzed.
Reflection Prompts that surface values, emotions, and aspirations, fostering clarity and confidence.
Threshold Identification Worksheets for families to articulate concrete “red‑line” criteria for relocation.
Research Checklists to organize essential data on visas, cost of living, healthcare, education, and community norms.
Warm, Colorful Design and narrative‑driven instructions that blend storytelling with pragmatic, step‑by‑step guidance.
Opportunities for shared reflection: Book clubs and community workshops can integrate the workbook’s worksheets, creating interactive experiences that deepen community dialogue.